We often hear that marriage, or any relationship for that matter, is 50/50. 50% give. 50% take. Or is it? The equation sounds reasonable but according to God’s standard, should it not be 100% give / 100% take? “Did you say 100% take? How can that be?” Without graciously receiving, we deny the other person the opportunity to be a blessing to us. As we bless others wtih our thoughtful, loving gifts, we should allow others to do the same. But, we should never give something only for the purpose of expecting something in return. There should be no strings attached when we give from the heart.

You might ask, what do we do with the verse that says, “It is better to give than to receive.”? Acts 20:35 If you read the whole verse, the apostle Paul (quoting Jesus) is talking about helping the poor (weak) through hard work. In no way would we expect them to repay a kindness. Just knowing you were able to help someone else in need and doing it in the name of Jesus, is reward in and of itself.

So, this Christmas season think outside the (gift) box and find ways you can give of yourself to help the poor, children of prisoners, the elderly, and so many others, without expecting anything in return. And, as you give the gift of time, helps, words of encouragement, or actual presents to family and friends, do so with love (and allow them the blessing of doing the same). I don’t have the actual quote, but I remember someone asking Corrie Ten Bloom how she handles all the accolades that come her way. She said every night before she goes to bed, she “wraps them up” as if they were a bouquet of flowers and lays them at the feet of Jesus. Isn’t that a beautiful picture of grace and humility?  We graciously thank the person who gave us the gift, but at day’s end, we lay it down to the glory of God.